Arrow Meet Heart

“We get so worried about being pretty. Let’s be pretty kind. Pretty funny. Pretty smart. Pretty strong.” -Britt Nicole

“People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing you are the beholder.” -Salma Hayek

“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Healthy striving is self-focused: ‘How can I improve?’ Perfectionism is other-focused: ‘What will they think?’ Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” -Brené Brown

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“I used to think I was tough, but then I realized I wasn’t. I was fragile and I wore thick fucking armor. And I hurt people so they couldn’t hurt me. And I thought that was what being tough was, but it isn’t.” -James Frey

“Sensitive suffer more, but they love more and dream more.” -Augusto Cury

“Perfectionism doesn’t believe in practice shots. It doesn’t believe in improvement. Perfectionism has never heard that anything worth doing is worth doing badly — and that if we allow ourselves to do something badly we might in time become quite good at it. Perfectionism measures our beginner’s work against the finished work of masters. Perfectionism thrives on comparison and competition. It doesn’t know how to say, ‘Good try,’ or ‘Job well done.’ The critic does not believe in creative glee — or any glee at all, for that matter. No, perfectionism is a serious matter.” -Julia Cameron

“At its root, perfectionism isn’t really about a deep love of being meticulous. It’s about fear. Fear of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure. Fear of success.” -Michael Law

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“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of a relationship is a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on, you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen, if you decide to love.” -Timothy Keller

“You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart.” -Louise Erdrich

“I was always throwing things at him, always latching onto his arm. I was always waiting for him to grab me and tell me to run. For me we were always in a burning building and he was always too relaxed. For me, we were never safe and he was always telling me to calm down.” -Rebeka Anne

“I just want to know that if I stick my hand out, you’ll be quick to grab it.” -T.B. LaBerge

“Real love is always chaotic. You lose control; you lose perspective. You lose the ability to protect yourself. The greater the love, the greater the chaos.” -Jonathan Carroll

“Wasn’t that the point of life? To find someone to share it with? And if you got that part right, how far wrong could you go? If you were standing next to the person you loved more than everything else, wasn’t everything else just scenery?” -R.R

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“Date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you. Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants to hear every note of your favorite song, and watch every scene of your favorite movie. Someone wants to find every scar upon your body, and learn where each one came from. Someone who wants to know your favorite brand of toothpaste, and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them. There is a difference between attraction and interest. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are.” -Anonymous

“The things I find most beautiful about a person are almost never physical.” -Unknown

“You get older and you let things go. You say goodbye to the most isolating parts of your pride and, if you’re lucky, you slough off some of your pettiness.” -Frank Bruni

“What could I say to you that would be of value, except that perhaps you seek too much, that as a result of your seeking you cannot find.” -Hermann Hesse

“Maybe you had to leave in order to really miss a place; maybe you had to travel to figure out how beloved your starting point was.” -Jodi Picoult

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“We’d said we’d keep in touch. But touch is not something you do from a distance. Touch is not something you can keep; as soon as it’s gone, it’s gone. We should have said we’d keep in words, because they are all we can string between us — words on a telephone line, words appearing on a screen. But they cause more complications than clarity. On the phone, there are always voices in the background. On the screen, there are always the sentences saying he has to go.” -David Levithan

“This is why we call people exes, I guess — because the paths that cross in the middle end up separating at the end. It’s too easy to see an X as a cross out. It’s not, because there’s no way to cross out something like that. The X is a diagram of two paths.” -David Levithan

“Know how complicated it is, and then state it simply.” -Ernest Hemingway

“I wanted a perfect ending. I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, leaning into change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.” -Gilda Radner

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“She said this, which I love: some secrets are worth keeping. Sometimes none of the words and thoughts and feelings we wrestle with need to see the light, and that’s okay. It takes guts to get vulnerable, i.e. share parts of ourselves that we fear will result in rejection. But guts for the sake of guts feels totally…disingenuous? It shows security and confidence to pump the brakes a bit, and decide, on our own terms, how and when and for whom we’ll strip down for.” -Kelsey Boyte

“This business of being a human being is infinitely more fraught than I was led to believe. When my son Sam figured out at 7 years old that he and I were not going to die at the exact same moment, he said, ‘If I had known that, I wouldn’t have agreed to be born.’ That says it for me. It’s hard here, and weird. The greatness of love and laughter, the pain of loss, the bearing of one another’s burdens, are all mixed up, like the crazy catch-all drawer in the kitchen.” -Anne Lamott

“Yet little by little, I was also becoming the girl who was learning to live with this, all of it, letting it weave together with everything else, the good and the bad, as life moved forward, because that’s what life did, regardless of whether we were ready for it or not.” -Donna Freitas

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